Dear Friend...

I have just returned from my friend's daddy's wake and right now, I am feeling quite moody after witnessing such a genuine outburst of humane feelings. It might be an extremely boring entry to many, so if you are looking for some sensational news today, please visit again tomorrow. I am not going to care, for once, whether my site meter jumps for this entry, although I still wanna fulfil my lofty Aspiration of a Lazy Person.


I agreed immediately to attend the event, knowing that my parents might not want me to go due to their more 'pandan' thinking. But hey! I still feel the need to give my friend any kind of support that he will need currently. So I went with an absolutely open mind, not knowing what to expect, not knowing what to do.


Christofle and I reached the place later than the others because he want to go back home and change. When I reached there, the place was quite quiet due to little number of people there and we all dont dare to make a ruckus as a ceremony was carrying on. So I sat down and ate some peanuts. Fidgeting, I tried to locate JY within my view and finally, I found him, in the midst of fulfiling his duty as the eldest male descendant of the family. Looking at his back, I could sense his crestfallen mood and seeing that make me feel absolutely helpless at the instant, something which I had not felt recently. From time to time JY came to find us, sit and chatted a little with us. I was told later that he had not been having a good night's rest for a few days already. I also came to know this guy called Say Hoe or something like that, who was his very very good friend. My heart sank when I saw him came to our table, tears in his eyes and he was trying so hard not to show it in front of us. The brave young mind in him told himself that he must carry on and do what he need to do. But he let it off at a moment, hearts out. At that time, the deafening silence kept all of us in a panic but nobody showed it. What to do now?? How to help him?? My heart melted immediately when I heard someone's moaning from the other side of the pillar. Who is it? What happened? type of questions zoomed past my mind and I felt like going to a spot whereby I can see for myself and clear the doubts. He had already regained his composure and knowing it was his mama, he went off immediately to help out. His mama was in a devastated mood. She came out with 2 person carrying her. So he went to help and consoled her and I myself know that he is as heartbroken as his mama. At that time Say Hoe had already rushed back from his incomplete dinner to help out. Tomorrow will be even a more excruciating day for the family.


I really salute JY and his friend Say Hoe. JY stood firmly to where he was, coping with his studies in college while I can see that his mind as still half at his family, worrying most probably about whether things are going on smoothly there, another half with his beloved one. He also knew his responsibility and took charge. While keeping an eye on his mama, he also needs to attend the rituals, attend to some of the people who turned up and stuff like that. I do not consider 17 years a long period but at least I know that in his 17 years, he has grown to be responsible, better than many 17-years-old I have seen before. Something I admired alot is his friend Say Hoe. From what I heard, he has been the one accompanying JY through this period of crisis, helping his family out. Numbers of sleepless nights with JY as they shared almost the same bond with JY's daddy.

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How many have friends that are willing to sacrifice their own leisure time to really go into your life and give a helping hand to pull you out of a crisis? I asked myself this question profusely in my mind when I saw and heard about Say Hoe. So many juniors, so many friends made, will they all even turn up if one day I found a new home somewhere else? I am not asking for people to remember me or what-so-ever, but I am just thinking how many true friends do one really have? I really felt and feel that having this kind of friends makes my life really blissful and complete, although my parents will continue to tell me that friends are just people that walk in and out of your life and I shlould not depend too much on them.

I really wish JY all the best for tomorrow and beyond as he will be the one leading the ceremony I suppose. Stand brave and stand firm as he will need to pick up the family and move on. Everyone is there to help, 06S05 and all the teachers who teaches us.

Jiayou :)